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And belated Father's Day wishes to you and your family! We enjoyed a wonderful day Saturday with my Dad and extended family at a reunion picnic and then had fun at Great America with Brian and the kids yesterday.

For those who are local on my list, I have two fun public events for which I hope you'll come out. This Friday, June 20th I'm taking part in the Summer Fun on the Farm Fundraiser/Children's Resale/ and Expo in Woodstock. It's going to be a fun day for Moms and their kids that will benefit P.A.D.S. We will have indoor buildings so the event will take place rain or shine. Lots of fun activities, great drawings, and goodie bags for those who come.

Then Friday, June 27th, is an event just for the ladies!! I'm teaming up with the Avalon Salon & Day Spa at Deer Park for a Girl's Night Out. Bring a girlfriend and join me at Avalon Salon for a night of shopping, pampering, and cocktails! You can find all the details about both events on the Schedule page of my website.

Lastly, just a reminder that this month's complimetary teleseminar is coming up on Thursday, June 26th and anyone from anywhere can attend if they have a phone! The topic will be 5 Keys to Guilt-Free Time for Yourself. The call will take place live at 12:00 pm CST. It will also be recorded and an audio link sent out to those who register.

Wishing you a great month!

Cheers!

"If you believe you can, you probably can. If you believe you won't, you most assuredly won't. Belief is the ignition switch that gets you off the launching pad." Denis Waitley

"Ability is what you're capable of doing. Motivation determines what you do. Attitude determines how well you do it." Lou Holtz

"Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; you are the one who gets burned." Buddha

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5 MORE Tips to Reduce Stress & Guilt

By Victoria Cook

Since this is such a hot topic, I thought I'd share 5 more tips to help you reduce the stess and guilt. Together with the other five, you now have 10 tips to try. I encourage you to give them a try and let me know how it goes!.

6. Set clear boundaries

Boundaries and self esteem seem to go hand in hand. Through the work I’ve done, I find when a client has a strong sense of themselves and healthy self esteem they have an easier time setting AND ENFORCING their boundaries. When a client struggles with boundaries, very often they are struggling with their own sense of worth. When they value themselves, their time, their experiences, they won’t let others walk all over them. It’s not about being harsh or walking all over others, but caring for ourselves sufficiently to say “enough” when needed.

7. Use your values as the tie breaker between competing goals or events

Values are not morals or principles. Values are who we really are. They represent our unique selves and shape your actions. Values are our true north and serve as a compass to make sure we are headed the right direction in our life.

When the choice is hard or feels like a tie, the option that best supports your values will be most satisfying in the long run. So take a look at the difficult choice and identify the options and what values are honored by each. Choose the option that honors your highest value. Need help identifying your values? See the Values List on my website.

8. Remove tolerations

Tolerate is defined by Encarta Dictionary as, “to be willing to allow something to happen or exist”, “to withstand the unpleasant effects of something”. By tolerating things, we are allowing that unpleasantness to continue creating more stress and guilt.

You are likely putting up with more than you think. Tolerations can be minor like a button needing to be sewed on; a pile of papers on your desk needing to be filed; a stack of mail to be sorted, or some minor home repairs needing to be checked off the honey-do list! OR, tolerations can be BIG ones like an unfulfilling job, a toxic relationship, or a micro managing boss.
Raising your awareness of these tolerations and articulating them brings them to the forefront of your mind and you’ll naturally start handling, eliminating, fixing, growing through and resolving them.

9. Play to your strengths, talents, & passion

There are those things you KNOW you are good at. You’re the person people turn to JUST for that talent or strength. When faced with a request or the need to make some choices, choosing to take on a new task, role, or projects that allow you to use your natural strengths and abilities will cause less stress and can add feelings of fulfillment to your life.

For me, numbers don’t come easy! But I naturally connect well with people and easily make decisions (my siblings would call it bossy! LOL!). I’m NOT the ideal candidate to be treasurer of the PTO, but using my leadership abilities to connect with other business owners and Co-Chair the Small Office Home Office group at my chamber plays to MY strengths. I end up enjoying what I do and it shows. Versus saying yes to a request to do something that doesn’t come naturally can create a sense of resentment and the task becomes a burden.

10. Hire a coach!

OK, I KNOW I’m biased, but I also speak from personal experience! I hired MY first coach before ever thinking it was a career option for me. In fact, I didn’t really even know about the profession of coaching when I met Elene, by divine intervention, scrapbooking! Initially, I came to coaching for insight and assistance during a career transition.

What I ended up getting was a greater understanding of myself and what was important to me and how to tie THAT into my next career move. I also learned how to better manage my time, reduce stress and guilt, and motivate myself for continuous success. Not only did I choose a new career and pursue it, I used what I learned through my coaching to create a fulfilling and joyful personal life. Don’t get me wrong, my life isn’t always a “bed of roses”, but I try to enjoy the journey and like that I have a plan and tools and strategies to realize it.

Here are some additional ways coaching can be of benefit to success-oriented individuals:

Business / Career
• Gain clarity about business and career goals
• Improve decision making ability
• Advance your career or business
• Improve time-management skills
• Sustain focus on your top priorities
• Make and keep more money
• Reduce isolation, have a supportive person for a sounding board and accountability

Personal Life
• Get to the source of problems quickly
• Balance your business and personal life
• Re-design your life to make it the way you really want it
• Enhance self-confidence
• Get past personal blind spots
• Overcome fears & procrastination
• Enhance health, energy and performance

Still struggling? Can't find the time you'd like for growing
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Call me at 847.516.0190 for a private consultation to see if
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